Three Signs That You’re in the Wrong Relationship
Girl meets boy. Boy asks girl out. They go on ten dates in ten days and are smitten. Fast forward six months and they are living together. Fast forward another six months and they are both back on the dating apps.
Chances are at some point you’ve either been a character in this story, heard this story from a friend or both. In either scenario, the first question that popped in your mind was probably “What the @$!$% went wrong?”
More often than not, the “What the @$!$% went wrong?” could have be predicted. In fact, 99% of the couple’s friend circle probably discussed it amongst themselves. But, the excitement of finding the one lead to some serious blinders.
At the end of the day, everyone has deal-breakers and there is absolutely nothing wrong with that. However, there is something wrong with ignoring the signs of a doomed relationship. Sure, the idea of having a permanent plus-one is pretty inciting. But, at some point, the bubble is going to burst and life’s gonna get real. Here are three signs that you need to cut the cord sooner than later.
Sign Number One: Your Long-Term Visions Aren’t Compatible
Wanting different things has nothing to do with the small stuff like one of you wants Chinese for dinner and the other wants Italian. Wanting different things is about the end game. For example, one of you wants to get married, have three kids and move to the burbs and the other wants to live in your studio apartment in the city with your pet goldfish. These are fundamental differences in how you want your lives to play out. Sure, compromise is important, but when it comes to the big things, you need to be happy. And, if you make a huge lifestyle sacrifice just for your partner, you’re gonna end up resenting them in the long run.
Sign Number 2: You Can’t Be Yourself Around Your Partner
Sure, making a good first impression is important. Sometimes, that means not coming on too strong on the first couple dates. For example, even if you detest making an effort in the dressing department, you should at least try to put something decent on in the beginning. That said, after a couple months, you need to be able to be yourself around your partner. Whether that means eating meat in front of your vegan boyfriend or listening to gangster rap around your Pink Floyd loving girlfriend. You’re supposed to be most comfortable around your partner. So, if you don’t feel comfortable being yourself around them, you’re probably not with the right person.
Sign Number 3: Your Sex Life is Non-Existent
Yes, life happens. And, yes, dry spells are a part of life. After all, sometimes you really don’t feel like getting down and dirty after a 12 hour work day. But, that said, at the end of the day, sex is a major part of relationships. If you haven’t had any quality time in the bedroom for awhile, ask yourself, why? At what point did days turn into weeks, and weeks turn into months? Chances are, you can trace it back to a deep seeded issue in your relationship.