My Friend Wants Me to Vouch for Him, Now What?
You receive a message alert from your buddy. For the sake of this story, we will call him Mike. The text says “You’re getting this text because no one knows me like my friends. Say something nice about me and it will help me stand out on Voujo!” Then, your next text is a link to the Voujo feedback page. You click on the link, see a blank space for you to start writing whatever you want about your friend.* So, what do you do next?
First and foremost, take the time to actually give feedback about Mike. There’s a reason he asked you to vouch for him. Clearly, your friend Mike trusts your opinion, or else he wouldn’t ask for your two cents. Not to mention, dating isn’t always easy. So, if you can help a friend, you should. If nothing else, it’s good karma.
Once you start writing, keep the following tips in mind.
When deciding what to write about a friend, put yourself in the reader’s shoes. If you were thinking about swiping right or left, what would you want know about a person? You’d probably want to know a little bit more about their personality. After all, you can figure out the looks stuff from a picture. When giving feedback, describe some of your friend’s personality traits. Are they funny? Do they have dry sense of humor? Are they sensitive? Do they love to talk? Are they more of an introvert? Do they go with the flow or do they not like to depart from the set plan?
Honesty Honesty Honesty
What’s the point of having someone vouch for you if the feedback isn’t real? Yes, we understand wanting make your friend look good, but don’t do it by lying (or exaggerating for that matter). At the end of the day, the truth always comes out. So make your friend look good the honest way.
It’s About Them, Not You
If your feeback was made into a movie, think of your friend as the star and think of yourself as an extra. This is about them, not you. Sure, you might want to give a little background on how you and your friend know each other. But, that’s it – just a little background. Then, shift the focus back to your friend.
Leave Them Something To Talk About
Details are awesome. And giving details when leaving feedback is amazing. That said make sure you don’t accidently write a novel when describing your friend. Though valid, the reason behind this has nothing to do with your reader potentially losing interest in what you have to say. The main reason you should keep your feedback to the point, is that you don’t want to write so much that your friend and their potential matches don’t have anything to talk about.
*By whatever you want, we mean whatever you want that doesn’t violate our don’t be an idiot rule — no racism, sexism (basically no ism’s period) and no inappropriate language.